The signs are there. They have always been there. You know if this “thing” is just physical. You know if it’s “shallow.” You know if it’s just a superficial attraction. But what often holds us here in this kind of situation is an extremely strong desire for “some” type of attention or “any” kind of affection. We’re prolonging the inevitable and delaying the real blessings Jehovah has for us. I know it gets difficult in the flesh. I know the desire for companionship can be overwhelmingly strong at times. I know what it’s like to experience a four year drought just to have the “wrong man” to be the first candidate after the drought. It’s tempting. To just have someone, anyone but don’t. It isn’t a good feeling when the physical attraction wears off and the idea of you just isn’t that interesting any more, and the phone calls die down and the texts subside. And you find out that your heart means nothing to a man who was never created for you in the first place. Bow out gracefully NOW and trust God’s timing.
Keep your head up queen! The hell I’ve been through is enough the make a queen lie down and give up. But God. He says get up queen! Regardless of who left you for someone else; regardless of your bank account or credit score or the lack thereof; regardless of any kind of sexually transmitted disease or illness; regardless of your living arrangements; regardless of the friends who abandoned you; regardless of career or business or ministry obstacles; regardless of any self-perceived or inflicted inadequacies- get up! If you would only trust God and move in His direction, He has something amazing for you.
I decree and declare that you are healed from your afflictions. Every demon assigned to oppress you and hold you down must flee in the name of Yeshua. Regardless of who or what you loss, God has already restored it in the name is Yeshua. Throw your head back and look toward the hills from whence comes your help. He is waiting for you!
I pray that God teaches us how to truly be help mates. Yes. He created us to be that way. But we live in the world’s system and Satan has spent our whole lives using his imps to brainwash us in his methods. I decree and declare now that we will operate as wives according to God’s original plan. We know how to hold our husband down. We know how to lift him up. We know how to help him articulate his vision. We know how to give depth to his plans. We know how to organize and execute his goals. We know how to ask questions that will make him think things through without cussing, fussing, or nagging. We know how to create a sanctuary at home for him after he’s been through hell all day. We know how to lay hands on his head and pray over him until he believes he can do anything. We know how to make him feel like a king. We know how to propel him to another level. We know how to make his heart smile. How? Because Holy Spirit leads, guides, and teaches us what to say and do and we listen.
“Your husband’s sex drive is God’s gift to you.” Wives, sex is such a powerful tool and an even more powerful weapon. Jehovah never intended for us to use sex as a kingdom or spiritual weapon. The devil came in and corrupted its meaning and its use. Think about how the enemy uses sex in our marriages or how he uses us to use sex against our husbands. I know it must be extremely difficult to surrender your body and emotions to a man who has been insensitive, who refuses to take out the trash or help with the children, or who isn’t affectionate. But instead of rebelling; instead of withholding; and instead of withdrawing, you must learn how to engage in spiritual warfare. What are the confessions that you speak over him daily so that Jehovah can transform his life? How do you refuel and surrender to Jehovah so that He can fix what’s wrong in YOU? When do you go to the altar to pray for Jehovah to help you surrender to your husband sexually? When was the last time you fasted for your husband and marriage and sex life?
The devil will use us wives to withhold sex because he knows what a powerful tool it is in kingdom marriages. He will also use spirits of lust, adultery, masturbation, pornography and all other forms of sexual immorality to infiltrate our marriages with irreparable damage – if we let him. In kingdom, God ordained marriages and in God ordained sexual activities with your spouse, the sexual connection not only binds you to your husband and secures your oneness with him; not only does it feel amazing, but it is also a form of worship to Jehovah.
Think about all this power you have within you wives as you’ve been studying the Word of God with me; you’ve been praying; you’re about to do a 30-day fast. And do you think that when you connect with your husband sexually (which is also a connection spiritually) that your spirits aren’t impacting him? No. Sex won’t be the panacea for all your marital ills but the lack of sex is extremely frustrating to your husband and detrimental to your marriage. His sex drive has been tormenting you because other things aren’t going the way you want them to. Pray about this. Add this issue to your fasting prayer list. Your husband’s sex drive is a gift to you from Jehovah because in whole and healed marriages, sex can be the most powerful way to connect. When you have sex, use that as an opportunity to literally say aloud some of the confessions that Jehovah has given us. “Talking dirty” invites demons in your bedroom. And you wonder why you’re arguing or can’t communicate or can’t agree. What are you saying to each other and is it godly? Speaking powerful confessions over him while you are connected in the ultimate way invites the power of Holy Spirit to transform him and your marriage. His sex drive? Honey so many women are praying for what you have. You just have to pray and ask God how to manage the blessing with which you’ve been given.
He may not have the grace. You have a calling and an assignment on your life. Period. You were created for a purpose. Those relationships haven’t worked out because the man Jehovah has for you has to have the “grace” to be able to love you and lead you. He won’t bless you with someone who isn’t created to complement your calling to fulfill in the earth. There is a man who is favored and graced to carry you as Jehovah carries him. The heavier your calling, the heavier his grace will be. Be discerning. You know what God has called you to do. You know what God told you you need in your husband. Stop trying to force a man who doesn’t have the grace to love you and lead you and wait on Jehovah.
Wives, if you’re married and the two of you aren’t working together toward your ministry as a couple, pray and seek Jehovah for guidance and direction. The two of you have a kingdom ministry. What is it? Maximize your purpose and maximize your love for each other.
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When God sends your husband, you’ll know. You won’t have to debate it, argue it, or explain it. What is understood by you and Holy Spirit can’t be explained to people operating by the flesh. Protect your union. Don’t let the outside world penetrate your bond. You know what God told you – and that’s enough. Love like God says for us to love. Feel. Love. Even when you don’t feel love. I decree and declare that God ordained love bonds will not be broken in the name of Yeshua. And if you’re still waiting, Trust. God.