|We were created to be suitable help mates, which may require us to operate behind the scenes at times or to operate in a season of hiddenness. Do you just have to be seen? Do you have to have your name in neon lights? Do you have to get the credit or the glory? We were created because Jehovah said that it wasn’t good for men to be alone.
Genesis 2:18-22 (NIV) “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’ Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”
A help meet or helper in the Hebrew is `ezer or one who helps or aids. We are helpers, women of Jehovah! In some situations in marriage, men of Jehovah have another dimension that will attain when they find you. In those same situations, Jehovah may give you all the logistics and details needed to help your husband accomplish the vision Jehovah has given him. Are you humble enough to privately write out the plan, work out all the details Holy Spirit gives you, and develop the script that your husband executes in public? There will be times that we must be the mind that the Master uses behind the scenes that allows him to shine and Him to shine. But we won’t be able to do this is we’re the type right now who has to have accolades. If we’re the ones who have to have our names on the program, this will be challenging for us. If we’re the ones who “feel some kinda way” when our names aren’t called after we did all the work. It’s human (I hear you lol) but it’s flesh. Yeshua told us to die to our flesh. So if pride is an issue now, we have to be transparent, lay it on the altar and let Holy Spirit get that spirit out of us now.
It takes humility and love to allow someone to have the spotlight and shine. Holy Spirit has done a work in me in this area but if my flesh rears its ugly head, I start casting, rebuking, and renouncing the spirit of pride. To Jehovah be the glory in all things, not to Jené be the glory. And when we allow our husbands to shine, Jehovah still gets the glory. Someone will see His Spirit in us and say, “She is truly a virtuous wife touched by God Himself.” Humble yourselves in the presence of Jehovah and in due season, He will elevate you.
Excerpt From: Dr. Jené “Dr. J.” Elaine Walker. “Meditations for a Surrendered Life.” Go to www.meditationsforasurrenderedlife.com/buy!
Can I be completely naked with you and not be ashamed?
Genesis 2:25 NKJV “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”
I think this is a legitimate question and even more a legitimate concern in the institution of marriage. I have experienced and have observed relationships that were rooted in an unsafe environment. By this I mean that one spouse, or both spouses, felt uncomfortable and even unsafe in being totally transparent with the other.
One may think that after time both spouses would build the capacity to feel safe and both spouses would be able to be who they really are. Unfortunately, we make this extremely difficult when we don’t allow God to create our match for us.
God looked at man and said that it isn’t good for him to be alone. Then God created a woman for man. He didn’t solicit any help from Adam; God performed the entire surgery while Adam was asleep. That lets us know that we can rest assuredly that God is working for us, in us, through us, and on us and our mates, even while we sleep.
God created Adam a suitable helper. God created a help mate from the rib of the right man. God knows what we need in a mate. He knows who will complement us. He knows who can enhance the calling He has given us. God knows who will love us unconditionally. He knows who we can be naked with and unashamed.
People don’t come with clean crisp lives or with “no” issues. We’ve been hurt. We’ve had terrible hurtful things to happen to us such as rape, incest, or molestation. We have secrets and areas of weakness that we don’t feel comfortable sharing with just anyone. We have diseases and illnesses that the enemy has used to isolate us and make us feel ashamed about.
We are barren, impotent, or have several children. We have financial issues that have been irreparable thus far. We have mounds of debt. We have criminal records. We’ve done things that we’re so ashamed of that it makes us sick to think of it. How can someone else possibly deal with the things we’ve done and have had done to us?
We may be physically disfigured or we may not have an attractive body. We may have insecurities so deeply rooted that we’re still in the process of healing. Who is the suitable helper God created for us who can handle our nakedness? Who is the rib donor God will use to develop us and be able to handle our nakedness?
The devil has been given a foothold in too many marriages because of deeply rooted issues in “nakedness.” Now nothing is too hard for God; so, please know that if we make Him the center of our marriages now, He can still heal us and our marriages. But for all singles who haven’t yet (or yet again) ventured into the sanctity and safety of a lifelong marriage, please keep this question in the forefront of your mind, “Can I be completely naked with you and not be ashamed?” If you’re honest and especially “discerning” the Holy Spirit lets you know right away if you will have issues being “naked” with a person. Wait on God. He is the Creator and sovereign matchmaker and God knows just who you need. Jené Elaine Walker