The signs are there. They have always been there. You know if this “thing” is just physical. You know if it’s “shallow.” You know if it’s just a superficial attraction. But what often holds us here in this kind of situation is an extremely strong desire for “some” type of attention or “any” kind of affection. We’re prolonging the inevitable and delaying the real blessings Jehovah has for us. I know it gets difficult in the flesh. I know the desire for companionship can be overwhelmingly strong at times. I know what it’s like to experience a four year drought just to have the “wrong man” to be the first candidate after the drought. It’s tempting. To just have someone, anyone but don’t. It isn’t a good feeling when the physical attraction wears off and the idea of you just isn’t that interesting any more, and the phone calls die down and the texts subside. And you find out that your heart means nothing to a man who was never created for you in the first place. Bow out gracefully NOW and trust God’s timing.
Don’t fall into the trap of the enemy in this season. You are not depressed. You are not going into more debt – you’re coming out. You may be alone but you are not lonely. You have transitioned through a change in seasons and come forth victorious. You have overcome every attack the enemy forged against you in 2017. You are more than a conqueror. You don’t have to overspend to overcompensate for you you think you are not. You are whole. You are amazing. You are royalty – kings and queens. You made it through the most trying times of your life because Jehovah is your everything. There is nothing lost in the kingdom because Jehovah restores and shows mercy on whom He wants to show mercy. You will not take any residue of rejection, depression, or oppression into the new season of 2018. You realize you are but a mist and that your life is not your own. Therefore, you are determined to live each day that you do have in the dominion, authority, and power that Jehovah gave to you. Your lot is not lack but your portion is increase and multiplication. Shut down every lying devil that contradicts what God says about you in His Word. We don’t die, we multiply! And brown people, awaken and watch God vindicate us in this season.
I pray that God teaches us how to truly be help mates. Yes. He created us to be that way. But we live in the world’s system and Satan has spent our whole lives using his imps to brainwash us in his methods. I decree and declare now that we will operate as wives according to God’s original plan. We know how to hold our husband down. We know how to lift him up. We know how to help him articulate his vision. We know how to give depth to his plans. We know how to organize and execute his goals. We know how to ask questions that will make him think things through without cussing, fussing, or nagging. We know how to create a sanctuary at home for him after he’s been through hell all day. We know how to lay hands on his head and pray over him until he believes he can do anything. We know how to make him feel like a king. We know how to propel him to another level. We know how to make his heart smile. How? Because Holy Spirit leads, guides, and teaches us what to say and do and we listen.
Ephesians 6:12 (KJV) “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” There is an invisible battle in the spiritual realm that we can’t see. We just need to ask God for revelation so that we can “see” what’s happening in the spiritual realm.
The fight for your marriage is REAL! Do you think it’s unintentional that there are so many divorces and marital issues? The fight for your sanity and not to lose your mind is REAL! Do you think it’s just “YOU” causing you to be up, down, in, out, and on a rollercoaster? The fight for your finances is REAL! Do you think that the spirit of poverty in our family lineages won’t have to be broken and cut off and demolished with violent spiritual force? It’s real. Satan has a strategic army. We have to ask God to help us to use our weapons to fight the rulers of the darkness spiritually. We can’t win a spiritual war with flesh. God open our hearts, minds, and EYES to receive what you’re showing us in Jesus’s name. The devil is after something all right – to ultimately destroy us. But he has no power over our power through Yeshua.
“Your husband’s sex drive is God’s gift to you.” Wives, sex is such a powerful tool and an even more powerful weapon. Jehovah never intended for us to use sex as a kingdom or spiritual weapon. The devil came in and corrupted its meaning and its use. Think about how the enemy uses sex in our marriages or how he uses us to use sex against our husbands. I know it must be extremely difficult to surrender your body and emotions to a man who has been insensitive, who refuses to take out the trash or help with the children, or who isn’t affectionate. But instead of rebelling; instead of withholding; and instead of withdrawing, you must learn how to engage in spiritual warfare. What are the confessions that you speak over him daily so that Jehovah can transform his life? How do you refuel and surrender to Jehovah so that He can fix what’s wrong in YOU? When do you go to the altar to pray for Jehovah to help you surrender to your husband sexually? When was the last time you fasted for your husband and marriage and sex life?
The devil will use us wives to withhold sex because he knows what a powerful tool it is in kingdom marriages. He will also use spirits of lust, adultery, masturbation, pornography and all other forms of sexual immorality to infiltrate our marriages with irreparable damage – if we let him. In kingdom, God ordained marriages and in God ordained sexual activities with your spouse, the sexual connection not only binds you to your husband and secures your oneness with him; not only does it feel amazing, but it is also a form of worship to Jehovah.
Think about all this power you have within you wives as you’ve been studying the Word of God with me; you’ve been praying; you’re about to do a 30-day fast. And do you think that when you connect with your husband sexually (which is also a connection spiritually) that your spirits aren’t impacting him? No. Sex won’t be the panacea for all your marital ills but the lack of sex is extremely frustrating to your husband and detrimental to your marriage. His sex drive has been tormenting you because other things aren’t going the way you want them to. Pray about this. Add this issue to your fasting prayer list. Your husband’s sex drive is a gift to you from Jehovah because in whole and healed marriages, sex can be the most powerful way to connect. When you have sex, use that as an opportunity to literally say aloud some of the confessions that Jehovah has given us. “Talking dirty” invites demons in your bedroom. And you wonder why you’re arguing or can’t communicate or can’t agree. What are you saying to each other and is it godly? Speaking powerful confessions over him while you are connected in the ultimate way invites the power of Holy Spirit to transform him and your marriage. His sex drive? Honey so many women are praying for what you have. You just have to pray and ask God how to manage the blessing with which you’ve been given.
Esther 2:8-9 (ESV) “So when the king’s order and his edict were proclaimed, and when many young women were gathered in Susa the citadel in custody of Hegai, Esther also was taken into the king’s palace and put in custody of Hegai, who had charge of the women. And the young woman pleased him and won his favor. And he quickly provided her with her cosmetics and her portion of food, and with seven chosen young women from the king’s palace, and advanced her and her young women to the best place in the harem.”
You were created to stand out. You, queen, are in a class all by yourself. You are free to love your sister and support your sister with everything in you now because you are secure in your own royal position. There is something so special about you. You have a grace on your life that causes you to win the favor of Jehovah and the favor of man. It isn’t something you can earn and it certainly isn’t something you have to compete for. It just IS. The favor brings you to the forefront. It always has. The favor makes people want to bless you and curse you at the same time. The favor advances you beyond people who have more credentials than you on paper. The favor makes people give you V.I.P. access because you’re lowly in spirit. The favor makes people curious and want to peep your grace game.
You’re humble, obedient, faithful, and honorable but even when you aren’t any of those things, the grace covers you and brings you back to your spiritual senses. Even though you’re in the midst of “many young women,” you were created the stand out, o queen. Know your worth. You are worth far more than rubies. Queens invite other queens to the royal table. You are a queen.
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He may not have the grace. You have a calling and an assignment on your life. Period. You were created for a purpose. Those relationships haven’t worked out because the man Jehovah has for you has to have the “grace” to be able to love you and lead you. He won’t bless you with someone who isn’t created to complement your calling to fulfill in the earth. There is a man who is favored and graced to carry you as Jehovah carries him. The heavier your calling, the heavier his grace will be. Be discerning. You know what God has called you to do. You know what God told you you need in your husband. Stop trying to force a man who doesn’t have the grace to love you and lead you and wait on Jehovah.
Wives, if you’re married and the two of you aren’t working together toward your ministry as a couple, pray and seek Jehovah for guidance and direction. The two of you have a kingdom ministry. What is it? Maximize your purpose and maximize your love for each other.
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