The mantle of your assignment as wife will bring new dimensions in glory but also in combat. You have to be prepared now. Holy Spirit is your physical trainer now. What is your current spiritual workout regimen? We can’t afford to gain the weight of the world. Read the Word of God and study it every day. Ask Holy Spirit to speak so that you get revelation about the Word. Exercise your spiritual weapons now. When the spirit of depression comes, which muscles will you flex? Psychological warfare? Mental battles in your mind? People being used? Loneliness? Flesh wars are not acceptable at the next level. Are you fighting in the spirit or the flesh now? It’s time. We must workout daily and nightly in order to win the daily battles that we face now but also to prepare for the next level of warfare when God connects us with our husbands in this season. Do you see the warfare taking place in the world right now? We do not live in a vacuum. Everything happening in the world is connected to the spiritual realm. The battles will impact our marriages too. Our marriage is established to impact the spiritual realm. It’s all connected. Get in shape for battle. Everything you’re experiencing now is part of your militaristic training for combat in your marriage.
I know you’re familiar with soul ties. Whenever we connect with a person sexually, we become “one” with that person. Jehovah intended for sex to be strictly in the context of God ordained marriages. Jehovah created sex for procreation. If a sexual act doesn’t cause fruit, God didn’t create the act. Homosexual sex doesn't lead to being fruitful and multiplying. Anal sex doesn’t lead to being fruitful and multiplying. Oral sex doesn’t lead to being fruitful and multiplying. So when we perform or allow these acts to be performed on us, we are opening up spiritual portals for all kinds of demons to enter us. Think of conjuring. To conjure is to call upon (a spirit or ghost) to appear, by means of a magic ritual. When we participate in pagan ritualistic sex (sex outside of marriage, anal, oral, homosexual sex) we are conjuring up pagan gods and spirits. These sexual acts negatively impact us personally as well as our relationships and children. Think of the divorce rate; the percentage of people with homosexual spirits; and the statistics about diseases. Where do we think these things come from? Sin. When Jehovah warns us to flee from idolatry, He means for us to stay away from it. We must pray and intercede on behalf of ourselves and our husbands and children to keep us from idolatry. We are not ignorant of the devices of the enemy. If we are, we have to wake up now single wives. "Check in" in the comment section below if you're willing to do warfare against the kingdom of darkness, idolatry, and sexual immorality. Jené Walker
Women of God, I can’t stress it enough – We have to learn to keep our private lives private. Holy Spirit Himself should be the only One who can speak into us about our husbands. Blessed is the woman who walks NOT in the counsel of the ungodly…Her delight is in the law of the Word and she does meditate on it both day and night. Get your counsel from the Word of God. Family, friends, and even mentors don’t mean any harm, but sometimes their counsel is NOT godly. I’m speaking from experience. I have had people who are saved “pouring” into my spirit from their flesh. Because I didn’t guard my heart, I allowed my decisions to be influenced by their flesh. When our husbands mess up (because they will in some way), we will get over it in one hour but the people we confide in will harbor resentment and bitterness over time.
Holy Spirit will comfort us and guide us in what to do regarding our husbands. Even our most spiritual friends or mentors will still mentor us based on their schema and their paradigm. We can’t afford that. Learn now to hear from Holy Spirit for yourself. Learn now to depend on Holy Spirit for direction. Learn now to guard your hearts. Learn now to “eat the meat and leave the bones” – but be careful. Sometimes bones are embedded and hidden in the meat and we end up getting choked. Do not discuss your husband’s issues and your problems with any and everyone. Some people shouldn’t have access to your sacred covenant. Do not speak negatively over husband, describing what he did out loud in the atmosphere. Some of us can say some “damning” death confessions over our men and we put it in the atmosphere for demons to chew on and act on. Shhhhh. We have to learn now to be silent before HIM and him. Cherish the privacy of your marriage. Your husband is your best friend. When you can’t talk to him about himself, go to God about him in prayer and the heavenlies in warfare. Jené Elaine Walker
|We were created to be suitable help mates, which may require us to operate behind the scenes at times or to operate in a season of hiddenness. Do you just have to be seen? Do you have to have your name in neon lights? Do you have to get the credit or the glory? We were created because Jehovah said that it wasn’t good for men to be alone.
Genesis 2:18-22 (NIV) “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’ Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”
A help meet or helper in the Hebrew is `ezer or one who helps or aids. We are helpers, women of Jehovah! In some situations in marriage, men of Jehovah have another dimension that will attain when they find you. In those same situations, Jehovah may give you all the logistics and details needed to help your husband accomplish the vision Jehovah has given him. Are you humble enough to privately write out the plan, work out all the details Holy Spirit gives you, and develop the script that your husband executes in public? There will be times that we must be the mind that the Master uses behind the scenes that allows him to shine and Him to shine. But we won’t be able to do this is we’re the type right now who has to have accolades. If we’re the ones who have to have our names on the program, this will be challenging for us. If we’re the ones who “feel some kinda way” when our names aren’t called after we did all the work. It’s human (I hear you lol) but it’s flesh. Yeshua told us to die to our flesh. So if pride is an issue now, we have to be transparent, lay it on the altar and let Holy Spirit get that spirit out of us now.
It takes humility and love to allow someone to have the spotlight and shine. Holy Spirit has done a work in me in this area but if my flesh rears its ugly head, I start casting, rebuking, and renouncing the spirit of pride. To Jehovah be the glory in all things, not to Jené be the glory. And when we allow our husbands to shine, Jehovah still gets the glory. Someone will see His Spirit in us and say, “She is truly a virtuous wife touched by God Himself.” Humble yourselves in the presence of Jehovah and in due season, He will elevate you.
Excerpt From: Dr. Jené “Dr. J.” Elaine Walker. “Meditations for a Surrendered Life.” Go to www.meditationsforasurrenderedlife.com/buy!
“She” is probably holding her head down in shame or embarrassment or insecurity because of her complexion. She says she is “lovely” but… Have you ever done that? Given yourself a compliment “but” took it right back?
Song of Solomon 1:5-6a
5 I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon.
6 Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me:
Why do we do this? Do you struggle with accepting compliments or thanking Jehovah for the gifts you have without bringing up a flaw you have at the same time? If you can relate, would you agree that there is something on the inside that we need to get healed? We’ve been with ourselves for years so we know who we are and how we look. We should be delivered from our flaws even though they may be with us forever. The flaws are what they are and they make us who we are. But the question is, are the things about us truly “flaws” or are they unique traits that God designed to set us apart or keep us grounded? Society has influenced our opinions of ourselves so we need to get back to measuring ourselves by the true standard Yeshua and not the world’s standards.
Song of Solomon 1:15
15 Behold, you are beautiful, my love;
behold, you are beautiful;
your eyes are doves.
In verse 15, “he” begins to affirm his love with his words. “Behold,” he says. “Look at yourself my love,” he says. “You are beautiful. You are beautiful.” Your “husband” will affirm you over and over again. However, your insecurities about yourself will be dispelled and healed during your waiting season in the name of Yeshua. The goal during our wait is for us to allow Jehovah to reaffirm how beautiful we are. We now have an opportunity for Jehovah to work on us from now until completion. We are being sanctified daily if we’re truly walking with Yeshua. We will be whole when our husbands find us. We won’t “need” his affirmation but it will be nice when our husbands give it to us just because. Rest assuredly, the man totally surrendered to God will love you and cherish you and tell you that you are beautiful – repeatedly if need be.
The details aren’t our problem. Our sovereign, almighty, all powerful Jehovah will work out all the details. We don’t have time for that. We are supposed to be seeking Jehovah for our kingdom dominion and assignment. Jehovah will orchestrate the meeting with our husbands, the revelation to our husbands that we’re the ones, his preparation, and the geographical location. Don’t worry your pretty little heads about that. Seek Him first and His righteousness. While you wait on Jehovah, let Him prepare your heart and mind for ministry and marriage. Let Him get all the bitterness OUT because it kills marriages. Let Him get all the hurt OUT that destroys trust. Let Him get all the compromise OUT because that shakes fidelity at the core. Let Him get all the deception OUT that causes you to think the counterfeit is real which causes the heart to stray. Let Him get all the disobedience OUT that causes us not to submit to our own husbands in everything. We have work to do while we WAIT. Nonetheless, WAIT. Jené Walker
There have been times when that “smile” was really a “smirk” because I knew I was right about something and he was wrong. I thank Jehovah for daily sanctification. I thank Jehovah for daily, moment-by-moment transformation. I thank Jehovah for His grace. This isn’t an “us against him” kind of thing. This is a “you and me against the world’s system” kind of thing. PRIDE is what has to be demolished in order for us to be ok with being right – privately. It doesn’t even matter to us if our husband ever knows he was wrong in the situation. Jehovah will complete the work He starts in our husbands just like He will in us. We have to really allow Holy Spirit to humble us and help us not to take offense in situations like this. Our flesh will fight against this every step of the way. “I know I’m right. I’m smart. I run my own company. I make decisions at work. I’m smarter than he is. I make more money than he does.” Pride, pride, pride flee in the name of Yeshua. “Ok honey. I’m in agreement with you because where two or more are unified in His name, Jehovah is in the midst.” Can we humble ourselves to that extent? Of course we can; we have the power of Holy Spirit indwelling us. Are you ready to be a wife? Jené Elaine Walker