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“Honor: Earned or Demanded?” by Dr. Jené Walker

I believe honor is something that leaders earn. Honor is something we teach our tribe and our teams through the way we treat our tribe and through the evaluation of our performance as leaders over time.

I have an amazing book entitled Leadership Lessons of Jesus! It’s juicy so far. I’m still in the early chapters but I have yet to read of Yeshua forcing followers to show Him honor.

I remember working hard for my degrees in Leadership and Curriculum and Instruction. But I also remember when people neglected to call me by my hard earned title, Dr. I remember the very first time it happened. Holy Spirit whispered, “Don’t even try it!” I was humbled through and through before I had an opportunity to respond. Geesh! Humility hurts.

Flesh wants respect and honor and reverence. And even if we truly do deserve it based on our positions and titles, our people have to see that we deserve it. How? I believe I have to teach my tribe how to honor and respect me by the following (to name only a few):

1) Show them the same level of respect. I supervised thousands of teachers with titles or credentials. If you want to be called by your title, honor theirs. Thank God I’m good in that area after he stripped me of pride in 3 seconds. The only title I can’t wait to claim is MRS.

2) Demonstrate competency – consistently. Do you know your stuff? Do you have answers? Are you resourceful? Do you know where to find answers?

3) Be trustworthy and reliable. Insecurity made me double minded at times and double mindedness is not trustworthy. After over 15 years of leadership, God has worked that out in me. Your people have to know they can trust in you consistently.

4) Show you care. I’ve worked under leaders as second in command who asked about my son and me. They showed they care. But I’ve also worked for leaders who would just take, take, take. Do you really care about the people you lead.

How do you feel about honor? Is it demanded or earned?

“Honor Where Honor is NOT Due” by Dr. Jené Walker

What names are you calling your husband? What is your attitude when you address him? What is holding you back from humbling yourself in order to show honor to him in this season? What are you afraid of? Why aren’t you able to prostrate yourself in order to esteem or to value your husband to the highest degree? We won’t be able to escape having this characteristic as wives and still live in kingdom order.

1 Samuel 25:21-24 21 Now David had said, ‘Surely in vain I have protected andguarded all that this man has in the wilderness, so that nothing was missing of all that belonged to him; and he has repaid me evil for good. 22 May God do so to the enemies of David, and more also, if by morning I leave [alive] even one male of any who belong to him.’ 23 When Abigail saw David, she hurried and dismounted from the donkey, and kneeled face downward before David and bowed down to the ground [in respect]. 24 Kneeling at his feet she said, ‘My lord, let the blame and guilt be on me alone. And please let your maidservant speak to you, and listen to the words of your maidservant.'”

Abigail wanted to save her family from destruction. She rushed to confront the king to keep him from killing her household. When she reached him, she hurried and got off her donkey and “fell down” before the king. “Fell down” is the Hebrew translation which means she fell prostrate before the king; she bowed down before her superior in homage to him. Abigail knew to whom to show honor. She honored the king in how she addressed him as “my lord.” 1 Peter 3 says that “Even Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”

Amazing woman of God, there is so much power in your ability and even willingness to humble yourself. When you can lower yourself, lessen your opinion of yourself, and stop thinking more highly of yourself than you ought to, power begins to permeate your whole being. Humility is a quality that distinguishes you from every other woman and you have to have it to show honor. Honor works well with obedience. Honor is related to submission. Honor prevents you from acting in your flesh. When your husband wants to move into another place to save money, will you “honor” his decision? When your husband reveals the financial plan for the family detailing what you have to save, spend, consolidate, and give away, will you honor him in obedience? When your husband gives you the new direction for the ministry and business, will you honor his vision? Even when he is about to make a decision that Holy Spirit revealed to you as an unwise decision, will you honor his authority?

The opposite of being prostrate is being prideful and pride goes before destruction. Listen to me you powerful woman of God, you have the spiritual capacity to humble yourself to show honor. You can impact the life of your husband, children, and family lineage with a decision to show honor and even be still until Holy Spirit tells you to move. You, queen, are an asset to the king, a manager, and the superintendent for your household. You are a gatekeeper and prophet. You are worth far more than rubies. To be continued…

Order your Worth Far More Than Rubies tee today at www.drjarmory.com! I can’t thank you enough for the influx of orders this weekend. I’m so grateful. I am decreeing and declaring that we have the faith to show honor even in places that we deem that honor is not due.



“Wives, Call Your Husbands ‘lord'” by Dr.J.

Women in God orchestrated and ordained marriages, cherish your husbands. Call them “lord” as Sarah did. Do not give way to the fears of “what if?” What if he leaves; what if he doesn’t love me back; what if I love him more; what if he cheats; what if he isn’t all I thought he would be. All those “what ifs” are straight from the devil who tried to destroy the entity of marriage from the first wedding. Don’t fall for it.

Your husband is second to God. Treat him as a king of the most high King. He is your present, your gift from God if God orchestrated your marriage. Love your husband unconditionally. Be his confidant, his biggest cheerleader, and his greatest support. Be his help mate. Help him to achieve his goals and dreams. God will do the work He needs to do in him. You will be held accountable for your part.

Pray for your husband. Cover him in prayer. Speak sweet and powerful affirmations over and into him. Lay hands on him. Give him your love freely and during intimate moments, whisper the most positive words of empowerment to him. Adorn yourself in submission and love not clothes, jewelry, and elaborate hairstyles.

God bless each and every marriage under the view of my declaration in the name of Jesus and marriages you’re developing right now in the spiritual realm in Jesus’s name.

1 Peter 3:5-6 NIV “For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.” Jené Elaine Walker