The details aren’t our problem. Our sovereign, almighty, all powerful Jehovah will work out all the details. We don’t have time for that. We are supposed to be seeking Jehovah for our kingdom dominion and assignment. Jehovah will orchestrate the meeting with our husbands, the revelation to our husbands that we’re the ones, his preparation, and the geographical location. Don’t worry your pretty little heads about that. Seek Him first and His righteousness. While you wait on Jehovah, let Him prepare your heart and mind for ministry and marriage. Let Him get all the bitterness OUT because it kills marriages. Let Him get all the hurt OUT that destroys trust. Let Him get all the compromise OUT because that shakes fidelity at the core. Let Him get all the deception OUT that causes you to think the counterfeit is real which causes the heart to stray. Let Him get all the disobedience OUT that causes us not to submit to our own husbands in everything. We have work to do while we WAIT. Nonetheless, WAIT. Jené Walker
Psalm 37:4 (ESV) “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
“Love Lessons: Stop Settling”
We believe God for certain areas of our lives but for most of us, finances, healing, and love are difficult areas to completely trust God. Unfortunately, we tend to take these matters into our own hands. Holy Spirit began speaking to me about the area of love to encourage me to hold on and wait for Him. He will give us the desires of our hearts when we delight ourselves in Him first. To delight ourselves in Him means to be happy in Him. Delight (“anag” in Hebrew) means to be glad in anything. See, we want the desires, but we have to be glad in the state we’re currently in. So, when Jehovah connects us with our mates, our happiness isn’t contingent on them and their actions but on our ability to delight ourselves in Jehovah. When we get to the point that we delight ourselves in Jehovah, then we begin to trust Jehovah to give us our hearts’ desires. The closer our relationship with Jehovah, the closer our desires begin to align with His desires for our love lives. When it comes to love, if we don’t get aligned with kingdom marriage principles now, we will continue to connect with people that God didn’t ordain for us. We will continue to experience failed relationships. We will continue to look for love in the wrong places. We will continue to “settle” for ungodly mates.
Holy Spirit gave me a few quotes about relationships dealing with how we’ve been settling in this season.
You are a king, a queen. If they can’t see the royal & godly value in you, then they can’t share the throne with you. Their loss. One of the most important things we must perceive in this season is that we are special to God. He loves us so deeply. If we could only see our worth through the eyes of Yeshua, we would stop settling for people who can’t see our worth. Often times, their perception of us is distorted because of their skewed perception of God and themselves. They can’t see us clearly if they can’t see God clearly. We can’t be so desperate for love that we ignore the signs of their inability to see us through godly lenses. If we can’t commit to, honor, and revere God, where is the power to commit to and honor a “person?” Subject yourself to God first. In James chapter 4, verse 7, the Word says that if we are subject to God, we can resist the devil and he will flee. When we are subject to God, we are in total submission to His will and His Spirit. When our flesh begins to surface, we can clearly hear Holy Spirit speaking to us and guiding us in the way of the Spirit. When we are submitted to God, we are obedient to His Word. When we are subject to God, we honor authority and each other. If I didn’t have Holy Spirit compelling me strongly on the inside, I would have lost it on some people already. It is the power of Holy Spirit on the inside of us that helps us to honor another human being, especially when they aren’t doing right. It is difficult to submit to a person who is operating in their flesh, when we aren’t even submitted to God. That is the true test. Can we submit and honor a person when they are at their worst? Submission is one of the aspects that relationship sustainability requires. Are you totally submitted to God first?
He has been dangling carrots, but no karats – paying a bill, buying groceries, even paying rent but still no ring of commitment. We have stay in dead relationships with no future, no life, no real love, and no commitment for long enough. We are wasting time and delaying our true happiness. Do we trust God for true love? Can we be content in our single state? Women, we will stay in a relationship until the wheels fall off in hopes that mileage will get us the commitment and love we desire. It won’t. The spirits we’re dealing with in a man who won’t commit may vary from person to person such as brokenness, sexual immorality, and narcissism. But if we’re honest, for us to stay in a dead-end relationship indefinitely, we too are dealing with some spirits such as insecurity and dependency. A man who truly loves us and is willing to commit doesn’t dangle carrots – give us things or say things to make us believe he is going to commit. He commits. Get healed. Stop settling.
He has been putting a “wing & thing” on it but has yet to put a ring on it. God created you for more. Don’t settle. Some of us mistake love for a man buying us things or feeding us or sex. The meaning of true love is not based on the world’s standards but in the Word of God. A man finds a wife, not a woman to buy chicken and have sex with. A man finds a wife who is a “good thing.” And then that man finds favor with Jehovah. You’ve been hanging out with a man who is missing his favor because he hasn’t done right by you. You are a good thing, a suitable help make, and an agent for his upgrade.
Stop settling. How long will he halt & limp between two opinions? Either he wants you God’s way or not at all. Don’t settle. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. Some men say they love you and want to marry you but their actions are noncommittal. Some will even tell us that they are noncommittal and we continue to settle for that ungodly stand he has taken. When they enemy whispers that maybe you’re asking for too much, that is a lie. You are not the one. You’re not asking for much. You’re not asking for anything that God didn’t promise you can have. Let’s put that lie to rest right now. Yes, you a submissive. Yes, you have a quiet spirit. Yes, you will honor your husband. But no, you are not the one who will stay in a relationship with a man who doesn’t know what he wants. You can make excuses and prolong the inevitable by saying you’re a good friend who wants to help him go to the next level… In the end, the answer is still the same. He doesn’t know if you’re the one. He doesn’t know if you’re worthy of being his wife. He doesn’t know if he will marry you. God has someone whose mind is made up about finding you.
Your body is a temple. If he doesn’t take you to the temple, he can’t tamper with your temple. We continue to put ourselves at physical and emotional and spiritual risk by sleeping with men or women who are not our spouses. Jehovah says in Romans 12 for us to present our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God which is our reasonable service. Only then will we even know His perfect will for our lives. Sex was designed for marriage. And because of our sexual immorality, diseases of all types are continuing to spread. Marriages are continuing to end. We see sex as moments of pleasure but it can cause a lifetime of hurt and consequences when we defile the temple. If you’re not worthy of being his wife, he’s not worthy of defiling your temple, which is the temple of God. Don’t settle. Don’t sin.
If she wants you to compromise your standards now, she will want you to do it again. Take a stand. Don’t settle. Men, the Word of God says in Proverbs 18, he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Be led by Holy Spirit about the woman you “find.” What are the characteristics of a “wife” according to the Word of God. Is she subject to God? Is her life aligned with the principles of the Word of God? Are you equally yoked? As the head of the household and the head of your wife, you need someone who will complement you and be an asset for you. She needs to be one who will promote your vision. She has to have an uncompromising spirit, unwilling to go against the Spirit of God. Your wife won’t ask you to compromise. Don’t settle.
Number one is not sufficient. God created you to be the only one. You know if you’re just one in the number. Stop settling. When God created Adam, he said it isn’t good for man to be alone. Then, he created Eve, a suitable helpmate. God’s intentions form the beginning were for a man to be with one woman. As I reflect on my studies, I think the first mention of a man with more than one wife was Lamech, after the fall of man. In the world in which we live, it has become the “norm” for us to operate out of order, misaligned with the Word of God. We have become accepting of being someone’s number or three or four person. The devil is a liar. That is not how God intended for relationships to be and we shouldn’t settle for that.
“Being a man’s second, third, or even fourth option is only cute for as long as we can pretend we are okay with it. Ladies, God didn’t create us to be okay with that. Feelings are deceptive. So that empowerment we think we feel as a result of being involved with someone who belongs to someone else is really pride and selfishness. That statement we make—I can’t help if she doesn’t satisfy him and he has to come to me”—is only cute in the flesh and for a moment. After a few months of being number two, three, or four, it isn’t cute any more. It really hurts when we’re all alone and our bodies aren’t enough to keep those men with us. It isn’t cute when we’re reaping all the pain we’ve sown. God has a number-one position reserved just for me and you. He wants us to start bearing the fruit of the Spirit (such as self-control) and stop producing fruits of discord, dissension, and sexual immorality. Let’s stop pretending we’re cool with being less than a man’s only one. If we would only trust God, each of us could have a spot of our own.”
Excerpt From: Dr. Jené “Dr. J.” Elaine Walker. “Meditations for a Surrendered Life.”
You are worthy of real (which shouldn’t be relative) love. Don’t settle. God says there’s more for you than that. It doesn’t matter if you have a disease, been molested, raped, or a victim of incest, you are worthy of love. Yeshua loves us in spite of everything we’ve done and anything that has happened to us. He wants us to experience unconditional 1 Corinthians 13 love from our mates too. When you begin to realize your worth in Yeshua, you will wait on someone who sees your worth and who is willing to give you real love. Don’t settle.
We are living in a season of increase but we have to truly believe that we can receive it. As a people, we’ve been through an extensive season of punishment for our transgressions and rebelliousness and it is difficult to imagine our season of restoration. The time is now. The time is now for increase so that we can take care of the needy and the poor and the prisoners. The time is now for increase to fund our initiatives to conquer more territory for the kingdom. In the midst of devastation – death of navy men, unjust court decisions, bombings in Manchester, and corruption in government, the body of Yeshua will receive increase. We have lived beneath kingdom standards long enough. The wealth of the wicked has been stored up for us. The time is now for increase, not for us to accumulate wealth for selfish gain and become as the wicked are but for us to use our wealth for kingdom advancement.
Jehovah will cause your gifts to make room for you. Jehovah will bring you before great men. Jehovah will make your name great. You don’t know enough and you don’t know enough people in high enough places to do in your own power what Jehovah is going to do through you. I remember trying to justify Jehovah’s vision for my life with a bunch of “I’s!” God said, “I?” Jené, you are insignificant in the God scheme of things. Jené, turn those “I’s” into “God’s.” That’s why our faith gets shaky sometimes because “we” know good and well “we” can’t make the vision manifest in our own power. It’s far too huge for human ideas, human power, human knowledge, human philosophies, and human effort. It’s far too huge for human connections. Until we humble ourselves [because we aren’t great without the power of Holy Spirit on the inside making us great], we will continue to stammer, stutter, and squirm when trying to explain how we’re going to “make it happen.” When people ask, “How?” Say, “I don’t know how, but God knows how.” Don’t try to justify the vision, just go along with God for the ride. Just continue to humble yourself to be a vessel. Just keep the faith in what He showed you and be ok with saying, “I don’t know. But God knows.”
God’s timing is perfect. His will for your life is perfect. His ways are not ours but they’re perfect. His thoughts are not ours but they’re perfect. We’re not special; we’re vessels. Be willing to die as God uses you. Be willing to decrease as God uses you. Be willing to look like you’re losing [and look like you’re losing with grace] as God uses you. It’s not about us. It’s about the kingdom. Always. Always. Always. Jené Elaine Walker
Don’t go to their page not one more time. Don’t ride through their neighborhood. Don’t inquire about them. Pray for them and the spirit in them but focus on God and increase. The enemy knows just how to keep us distracted with foolishness. It doesn’t matter how badly they treated you, if they abandoned you, stopped talking to you, gossip about you, doubt you, took something from you, messed with your spouse or significant other…leave those people who are being used by the enemy alone. God has shown you the spirit in them so pray that spirit out of the person but don’t you let the spirit get on YOU! Leave them alone. In your heart and in your actions, let those people go. God won’t let anyone do anything to you that He isn’t aware of and sovereign over! Persecution is supposed to advance the kingdom but we won’t let the kingdom be great! 😒 Because we’re doing the most trying to get them back and keep up with them and copy them and compete with them. You’ve just been set free. Pray every time you’re tempted to act just like the spirit in them. Pray and stay away. Increase. We don’t have time for it. The kingdom of heaven is at hand. I love you. Now go be great.
“I do not need to elaborate. I am not here to enumerate your problems, I am here to introduce you to a method of solving them. In my bag here, I HAVE A FULL PROOF METHOD FOR CONTROLLING YOUR BLACK SLAVES. I guarantee every one of you that, if installed correctly, IT WILL CONTROL THE SLAVES FOR AT LEAST 300 HUNDREDS YEARS. My method is simple. Any member of your family or your overseer can use it. I HAVE OUTLINED A NUMBER OF DIFFERENCES AMONG THE SLAVES; AND I TAKE THESE DIFFERENCES AND MAKE THEM BIGGER. I USE FEAR, DISTRUST AND ENVY FOR CONTROL PURPOSES. These methods have worked on my modest plantation in the West Indies and it will work throughout the South. Take this simple little list of differences and think about them. On top of my list is ‘AGE,’ but it’s there only because it starts with an ‘a.’ The second is ‘COLOR’ or shade.” Excerpts from the Willie Lynch Letter
Until we recognize that there is still a deeply rooted “hate” problem in this country particularly, we won’t ever be able to love as Jesus instructed us to love. Underneath the surface of the spirit of hate is “apathy” (“they need to get over it”) and a “pretense” (“I don’t see what the problem is”) that this type of hatred doesn’t still exist and at least a heavy residue from it. We can’t truly be the salt of the earth and the light of the world and hate God’s special people. We have to constantly check the motives of our hearts. We have to constantly check our love gauge. Do we truly love our neighbors as ourselves? What specific actions do we take toward loving the chosen people of God? If we’re taking longer than two minutes to answer, we need to assess our hearts.
Brown people, be vigilant. The effects of these schemes were deeply rooted in the system and ingrained in the minds of our forefathers. Are we still separated by age and shade as a people? We have to break the cycle and psychological warfare inflicted to keep us separated through spiritual warfare. We have to make spiritually conscious efforts to recognize these devices and how they have affected our interactions and feelings toward each other as a people. It’s time to wake up. Jené Elaine Walker #reflection #change
You’ve instilled the Word of God in your child(ren). You’ve raised him in the church. You’ve taught him spiritual warfare. You’ve taught them the difference between operating in the flesh and in the spirit. You’ve been revelatory in helping them realize their spiritual gifts and fivefold ministry assignment. You’ve been real about your mistakes and finally had the “sex talk” even if it was a little late. You’ve taken Financial Peace University together. You’ve shown them how to run the business. You’ve taught them about who they REALLY are and not the history in thewhitewashed books about us. No, you’ve taught them they are the chosen of God, true Israel. You’ve watched Roots, Amistad, 12 Years a Slave, and The Birth of a Nation Together. You’ve told them that they can be anything they want to be in alignment with God’s calling on their lives. You study the Word together. But now, you have a little doubt about if you’ve done enough…
A wonderful Facebook friend said Holy Spirit told her to tell me to call in on a prophetic line last night. A part of the “EXTENSIVE” Word God had for me on that call last night was confirmation about my child. We have to allow the promises of God for our children to converge with time and trust that God has a plan (Help me Holy Ghost). It doesn’t matter if you raised them singly or not. A and A-B honor roll is a blessing from God but Cs won’t even keep them from destiny. They will lack no good thing. The plan for your child(ren) includes all their mess ups – some more serious than others but I declare and decree that it won’t alter God’s plan for their lives. Our mess us didn’t change ours, right? PARENTS, WE ARE JUST VESSELS. GOD HAS THE MASTER PLAN FOR OUR CHILDREN. God has us and our children in His hands. The blood doesn’t work temporarily; it will cover them wherever life takes them in the name of Yeshua. Glory to God. Keep laying hands and anointing them while you still have them. Keep teaching them how to fight in the spirit. They need to know how to win daily spiritual battles too. Jené Elaine Walker
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