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“His Bed is Not Your Altar” by Dr. Jené Walker

Daughter of Zion, O beautiful precious daughter, get up. His bed is not your altar. Stop allowing the bed of a broken man to be your place of worship. We can’t continue to give ourselves to a man who is not our husband and who is too broken to even consider marrying us. Every time we engage in sexual activity with a man who is not our husband, we offer up worship to the kingdom of darkness. Sex is a form of worship. If sex isn’t with your God ordained spouse, the worship is to Satan and the kingdom of darkness. Every time we engage in sexual immorality with a man who is not our husbands, we are bowing down at the altar of Satan. Why is it, do we think, that there is so much sexual immorality in this world as if Jehovah Himself didn’t declare that it is sin? Why is it pervasive in and throughout every cultural mountain? Why is it wreaking so much havoc including disease and destruction? Why? Satan is using our bodies as his playground and we are allowing it. Almost every form of idolatry in the Old Testament involved pagan sexual worship to Satan’s idols. The Israelites would participate in sexual immorality in order to gain from idols the favor, fertility, prosperity, and whatever else they lusted for. Those idolatrous spirits are still in existence in the heavenly realm. How long will we allow our bodies to be the temples for those spirits? When we have sex with a man who is not our husband, we give Satan access, an entry way into our lives. Stop now.

How do I stop? How can I possibly refrain from sex? How can I refuse him when I love him? How can I stop worshiping in his bed and worship Jehovah my creator instead? Through developing your relationship with Yeshua. The closer you get to the Vine, the more you begin to resemble Him. The closer you get to the Vine, the more you begin to hear Holy Spirit when He says, “Don’t answer the phone.” “Don’t go.” “Don’t kiss him.” “Don’t put yourself in a tempting situation.” “Don’t check his page.” The closer you get to the Vine, the more you want to fall on your face at His altar instead of the bed of his altar. You begin to desire to consecrate yourself. You begin to be delivered and healed from your own afflictions. You begin to be made whole. And when you get to that sweet spot, you will know that God has a whole and healed man for you who will not ask you to worship him. He will instead ask you to marry him and Yeshua, the Vine will give you whatever you ask according to His will. Meanwhile, precious queen, get up. His bed is not your altar. Do not let the bed of a broken man become your place of worship. You’re worthy of so much more. You’re worth far more than rubies. Know your worth.

John 15:5-7 I am the Vine; you are the branches. Whoever lives in Me and I in him bears much (abundant) fruit. However, apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing. If a person does not dwell in Me, he is thrown out like a [broken-off] branch, and withers; such branches are gathered up and thrown into the fire, and they are burned. If you live in Me [abide vitally united to Me] and My words remain in you and continue to live in your hearts, ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you.

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“His Sex Drive is Your Gift” by Dr. Jené Walker

“Your husband’s sex drive is God’s gift to you.” Wives, sex is such a powerful tool and an even more powerful weapon. Jehovah never intended for us to use sex as a kingdom or spiritual weapon. The devil came in and corrupted its meaning and its use. Think about how the enemy uses sex in our marriages or how he uses us to use sex against our husbands. I know it must be extremely difficult to surrender your body and emotions to a man who has been insensitive, who refuses to take out the trash or help with the children, or who isn’t affectionate. But instead of rebelling; instead of withholding; and instead of withdrawing, you must learn how to engage in spiritual warfare. What are the confessions that you speak over him daily so that Jehovah can transform his life? How do you refuel and surrender to Jehovah so that He can fix what’s wrong in YOU? When do you go to the altar to pray for Jehovah to help you surrender to your husband sexually? When was the last time you fasted for your husband and marriage and sex life?

The devil will use us wives to withhold sex because he knows what a powerful tool it is in kingdom marriages. He will also use spirits of lust, adultery, masturbation, pornography and all other forms of sexual immorality to infiltrate our marriages with irreparable damage – if we let him. In kingdom, God ordained marriages and in God ordained sexual activities with your spouse, the sexual connection not only binds you to your husband and secures your oneness with him; not only does it feel amazing, but it is also a form of worship to Jehovah.

Think about all this power you have within you wives as you’ve been studying the Word of God with me; you’ve been praying; you’re about to do a 30-day fast. And do you think that when you connect with your husband sexually (which is also a connection spiritually) that your spirits aren’t impacting him? No. Sex won’t be the panacea for all your marital ills but the lack of sex is extremely frustrating to your husband and detrimental to your marriage. His sex drive has been tormenting you because other things aren’t going the way you want them to. Pray about this. Add this issue to your fasting prayer list. Your husband’s sex drive is a gift to you from Jehovah because in whole and healed marriages, sex can be the most powerful way to connect. When you have sex, use that as an opportunity to literally say aloud some of the confessions that Jehovah has given us. “Talking dirty” invites demons in your bedroom. And you wonder why you’re arguing or can’t communicate or can’t agree. What are you saying to each other and is it godly? Speaking powerful confessions over him while you are connected in the ultimate way invites the power of Holy Spirit to transform him and your marriage. His sex drive? Honey so many women are praying for what you have. You just have to pray and ask God how to manage the blessing with which you’ve been given.