1 Corinthians 3:18 NIV “Do not deceive yourselves. If any of you think you are wise by the standards of this age, you should become “fools” so that you may become wise.”
Wives, be fools so you can become wise. Yes rid your heads, hearts, and spirits of everything you think you know about “dealing” in marriage and with your husbands-that is, IF it is based on human principles, the world’s standards, logic, philosophy, tradition, worldly wisdom and faulty reasoning. God says that in order to become wise with His wisdom, you cannot continue to operate in your marriages with worldly wisdom. The world would say, “you don’t have to put up with that,” “get you somebody on the side too,” “seduce him,” “cuss him out and belittle him,” “don’t wait on God, this man won’t change,” “run up his bills,” “men need you to make them chase you,” “ignore him and he will straighten up,” “withhold sex,” “punish him,” and “make him jealous.” We are deceiving ourselves if we think we can separate ourselves from God’s instruction to suit our needs in the moment. No!
Now, fill your heads, hearts, and spirits with God’s wisdom. “Do not repay evil for evil.” “A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised!” “Wives, respect your husbands.” “They that wait upon the Lord.” “With Christ all things are possible.” “They (husbands) may be won over by your quiet spirit.”
Ask God to show you how to prosper in your marriage. Don’t try to lean on your own understanding! Don’t rely on your whimsical emotions! With all our degrees and knowledge, we are acting foolishly if we aren’t led by God. Tell God to pour into your empty heads, hearts, and spirits the wisdom of His Spirit.
And the next time somebody tells you, “God didn’t say to be no fool, nah!” Tell them (in your head), “Yes, He did say just that! You can’t judge me! You can’t judge my marital situation using worldly wisdom! Only those in the spirit can understand why I do have to be a fool!” Humble yourselves. Submit. Dr.J.
You’re a great husband. You work hard, you come home, and help with cooking and cleaning. Do you know how to truly honor your wife? For your prayers to go through, follow God’s instructions on how to honor your wife.
Give honor to your wife as the weaker vessel (NKJV), treat your wife with respect as the weaker partner (NIV), and honor the woman as [physically] the weaker (AMP).
Honor is what we give to that we value. It is something that comes from the inside of you and is expressed in how you treat your wife. You hold her in high esteem because of her title. Some people rise to their feet to show honor. Others bow to their knees to show honor. Some use certain words of high esteem to address another that they honor. Some give their money to another to show them honor. Some recognize another on special days to demonstrate the honor they have for them. Spiritual leaders receive a double portion of honor from those who respect and honor them. Which displays of honor does your wife deserve?
Honor cannot be based on how your wife acts because she will mess up sometimes. But husbands honor their wives simply because she is the “wife.” Because you found your wife – a suitable mate – you automatically obtain favor from God. The fact that she was created to add value to your life makes her worthy of receiving your honor. You recognize her as your weaker partner so you take care of her. You are not condescending toward her because you understand how she helps you fulfill your purpose.
Your prayers were cut off because you haven’t given honor to your wife. Allow God to transform your heart right now so you can begin to honor and respect your wife. Be obedient. Honor your wife. Your wife is your partner, your family. Jené Elaine Walker
Husbands, do you feel like your prayers are being hindered or cut off? Do you feel like you haven’t been able to pray an “effective” prayer? God requires specific actions for husbands in order for your prayers to go through. Your actions are not contingent on what your wives do or do not do. You have to be accountable to God for your actions.
Dwell with your wife with understanding (NKJV), be considerate (NIV), and live considerately with intelligent recognition of the marriage relation (AMP).
To dwell means to live with in a fixedly or permanent state. Husbands, some wives just aren’t confident that you’ll be there for them. You’ve left and come back or threatened to leave so much that they are skeptical. Some wives aren’t sure if you will be here until death do us part.
Also, God says to dwell with understanding and be considerate. Husbands you have to listen to your wife, get to know her needs, and talk to and communicate with her regularly. Consider her earthly needs and meet them. Also, consider her spiritual needs and wash her in the Word of God. God expects you to understand the marriage relation. Your wife is your family.
Husbands, stop getting your prayers cut off by being inconsistent, inconsiderate, controversial, and confrontational. Dwell with your wife with understanding. “Otherwise, you can’t pray effectively” (1 Peter 3:7, AMP). Jené Elaine Walker
Husbands don’t jeopardize your inheritance of favor from God. An heir is a person who is “legally entitled to the property or rank of another, a successor, beneficiary; a person inheriting.” You may hinder your prayers if you don’t understand that your wife is your “joint” heir. For your prayers to go through, follow God’s instructions on how to be with your wife as joint heir.
Together as heirs of the grace of life (NKJV), treat your wife as an heir with you (NIV), and realize that you are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life (AMP).
Because you are married, your inheritance is tied to your relationship with your wife and to your obedience. Your unity ties you and your wife as heirs of the favor of God. Your unity joins you together for an inheritance of favor. Your union seals your right to your inheritance from God. When you’re favored, she is favored. If one is favored and the other isn’t, check the status of your union and obedience.
Can two walk together unless they agree? It is difficult to walk into your inheritance and favor when the two of you are not in agreement. When you operate out of order in your roles and positions in the marriage and in your relationship with God, it is difficult to walk toward your inheritance.
Husbands, your prayers have been ineffective because you’ve been trying to reign over your wife with an iron fist. Your wife is just as royal as you are. Treat her as your partner in royalty. God has promises He wants to manifest in your lives but you two are disjointed. He has another level of love, passion, and ministry for you but you are not in agreement with your wife. Share your inheritance of favor with her; it is rightfully hers too. Allow God to transform your heart so you can walk in agreement with your wife. Be obedient. Your wife is your joint heir. Jené Elaine Walker