The mantle of your assignment as wife will bring new dimensions in glory but also in combat. You have to be prepared now. Holy Spirit is your physical trainer now. What is your current spiritual workout regimen? We can’t afford to gain the weight of the world. Read the Word of God and study it every day. Ask Holy Spirit to speak so that you get revelation about the Word. Exercise your spiritual weapons now. When the spirit of depression comes, which muscles will you flex? Psychological warfare? Mental battles in your mind? People being used? Loneliness? Flesh wars are not acceptable at the next level. Are you fighting in the spirit or the flesh now? It’s time. We must workout daily and nightly in order to win the daily battles that we face now but also to prepare for the next level of warfare when God connects us with our husbands in this season. Do you see the warfare taking place in the world right now? We do not live in a vacuum. Everything happening in the world is connected to the spiritual realm. The battles will impact our marriages too. Our marriage is established to impact the spiritual realm. It’s all connected. Get in shape for battle. Everything you’re experiencing now is part of your militaristic training for combat in your marriage.
Women of God, I can’t stress it enough – We have to learn to keep our private lives private. Holy Spirit Himself should be the only One who can speak into us about our husbands. Blessed is the woman who walks NOT in the counsel of the ungodly…Her delight is in the law of the Word and she does meditate on it both day and night. Get your counsel from the Word of God. Family, friends, and even mentors don’t mean any harm, but sometimes their counsel is NOT godly. I’m speaking from experience. I have had people who are saved “pouring” into my spirit from their flesh. Because I didn’t guard my heart, I allowed my decisions to be influenced by their flesh. When our husbands mess up (because they will in some way), we will get over it in one hour but the people we confide in will harbor resentment and bitterness over time.
Holy Spirit will comfort us and guide us in what to do regarding our husbands. Even our most spiritual friends or mentors will still mentor us based on their schema and their paradigm. We can’t afford that. Learn now to hear from Holy Spirit for yourself. Learn now to depend on Holy Spirit for direction. Learn now to guard your hearts. Learn now to “eat the meat and leave the bones” – but be careful. Sometimes bones are embedded and hidden in the meat and we end up getting choked. Do not discuss your husband’s issues and your problems with any and everyone. Some people shouldn’t have access to your sacred covenant. Do not speak negatively over husband, describing what he did out loud in the atmosphere. Some of us can say some “damning” death confessions over our men and we put it in the atmosphere for demons to chew on and act on. Shhhhh. We have to learn now to be silent before HIM and him. Cherish the privacy of your marriage. Your husband is your best friend. When you can’t talk to him about himself, go to God about him in prayer and the heavenlies in warfare. Jené Elaine Walker
|We were created to be suitable help mates, which may require us to operate behind the scenes at times or to operate in a season of hiddenness. Do you just have to be seen? Do you have to have your name in neon lights? Do you have to get the credit or the glory? We were created because Jehovah said that it wasn’t good for men to be alone.
Genesis 2:18-22 (NIV) “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’ Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”
A help meet or helper in the Hebrew is `ezer or one who helps or aids. We are helpers, women of Jehovah! In some situations in marriage, men of Jehovah have another dimension that will attain when they find you. In those same situations, Jehovah may give you all the logistics and details needed to help your husband accomplish the vision Jehovah has given him. Are you humble enough to privately write out the plan, work out all the details Holy Spirit gives you, and develop the script that your husband executes in public? There will be times that we must be the mind that the Master uses behind the scenes that allows him to shine and Him to shine. But we won’t be able to do this is we’re the type right now who has to have accolades. If we’re the ones who have to have our names on the program, this will be challenging for us. If we’re the ones who “feel some kinda way” when our names aren’t called after we did all the work. It’s human (I hear you lol) but it’s flesh. Yeshua told us to die to our flesh. So if pride is an issue now, we have to be transparent, lay it on the altar and let Holy Spirit get that spirit out of us now.
It takes humility and love to allow someone to have the spotlight and shine. Holy Spirit has done a work in me in this area but if my flesh rears its ugly head, I start casting, rebuking, and renouncing the spirit of pride. To Jehovah be the glory in all things, not to Jené be the glory. And when we allow our husbands to shine, Jehovah still gets the glory. Someone will see His Spirit in us and say, “She is truly a virtuous wife touched by God Himself.” Humble yourselves in the presence of Jehovah and in due season, He will elevate you.
Excerpt From: Dr. Jené “Dr. J.” Elaine Walker. “Meditations for a Surrendered Life.” Go to www.meditationsforasurrenderedlife.com/buy!
The details aren’t our problem. Our sovereign, almighty, all powerful Jehovah will work out all the details. We don’t have time for that. We are supposed to be seeking Jehovah for our kingdom dominion and assignment. Jehovah will orchestrate the meeting with our husbands, the revelation to our husbands that we’re the ones, his preparation, and the geographical location. Don’t worry your pretty little heads about that. Seek Him first and His righteousness. While you wait on Jehovah, let Him prepare your heart and mind for ministry and marriage. Let Him get all the bitterness OUT because it kills marriages. Let Him get all the hurt OUT that destroys trust. Let Him get all the compromise OUT because that shakes fidelity at the core. Let Him get all the deception OUT that causes you to think the counterfeit is real which causes the heart to stray. Let Him get all the disobedience OUT that causes us not to submit to our own husbands in everything. We have work to do while we WAIT. Nonetheless, WAIT. Jené Walker
There have been times when that “smile” was really a “smirk” because I knew I was right about something and he was wrong. I thank Jehovah for daily sanctification. I thank Jehovah for daily, moment-by-moment transformation. I thank Jehovah for His grace. This isn’t an “us against him” kind of thing. This is a “you and me against the world’s system” kind of thing. PRIDE is what has to be demolished in order for us to be ok with being right – privately. It doesn’t even matter to us if our husband ever knows he was wrong in the situation. Jehovah will complete the work He starts in our husbands just like He will in us. We have to really allow Holy Spirit to humble us and help us not to take offense in situations like this. Our flesh will fight against this every step of the way. “I know I’m right. I’m smart. I run my own company. I make decisions at work. I’m smarter than he is. I make more money than he does.” Pride, pride, pride flee in the name of Yeshua. “Ok honey. I’m in agreement with you because where two or more are unified in His name, Jehovah is in the midst.” Can we humble ourselves to that extent? Of course we can; we have the power of Holy Spirit indwelling us. Are you ready to be a wife? Jené Elaine Walker
When you walk in faith, love, and obedience, don’t be shocked when God gives you the desires of your hearts. He rewards those who believe He exists and who diligently seeks Him. Don’t grow weary in well doing. Don’t look at how your situation appears in the natural. You have a past, a background, a current situation such as a bankrupt financial issue or a disease that the devil has told you no one will accept about you, renounce the lies of the devil in the name of Yeshua. Do you think that God can’t, no WON’T bless you with a love of your own? Don’t believe the lies of the enemies- statistics and facts and current situations don’t mean anything in the face of the sovereignty of God. Trust God for a love of your own. Someone asked me do I believe that everyone is meant to have someone. I said, “Do you believe that you were meant to have someone?” That’s what matters. Do you believe God can and will do it for you? I believe that God is cooking up something this season for His people. Receive it if you can. Jené Elaine Walker
Single wives, put in work for the kingdom of God apart from that man who is not your husband. Your husband will see your goods (gifts) because God will reveal who you are to him. Not anywhere in the instructions of God does the Word tell single wives to put in work for a man in order “to earn” the position of wife. Queens, stop it in the name of Yeshua. You’re doing his work, writing his dissertation, promoting him, helping with house plans, keeping his kids, working in his church like a first lady and you’re not, sexing him (My God today), cooking, cleaning, doing his laundry… STOP. SERIOUSLY (SPIRITUALLY). STOP NOW. Stop giving up all your goods (gifts) to a man who is not your husband. Because God created us to be a “help mate” it is natural for us to “help.” It is a gift. We do it well. We upgrade by design. But if your mate isn’t your husband, it isn’t ordained.
Transfer all those efforts to the kingdom of God apart from that man who is not your husband. God will reveal your gifts to your husband. You are a queen who is married to God in this season – worthy of the crown. Be faithful to God. Wake up to who you are beautiful queen. Wake up queen. Wake up oh beautiful queen. God sees you and knows the desires of your heart. Put in the kind of work that lasts – kingdom work. Wake up queen. I bind the spirits of insecurity, desperation, loneliness, lust, inferiority, and unworthiness in the name of Yeshua. Jené Elaine Walker