I pray that God teaches us how to truly be help mates. Yes. He created us to be that way. But we live in the world’s system and Satan has spent our whole lives using his imps to brainwash us in his methods. I decree and declare now that we will operate as wives according to God’s original plan. We know how to hold our husband down. We know how to lift him up. We know how to help him articulate his vision. We know how to give depth to his plans. We know how to organize and execute his goals. We know how to ask questions that will make him think things through without cussing, fussing, or nagging. We know how to create a sanctuary at home for him after he’s been through hell all day. We know how to lay hands on his head and pray over him until he believes he can do anything. We know how to make him feel like a king. We know how to propel him to another level. We know how to make his heart smile. How? Because Holy Spirit leads, guides, and teaches us what to say and do and we listen.
“Your husband’s sex drive is God’s gift to you.” Wives, sex is such a powerful tool and an even more powerful weapon. Jehovah never intended for us to use sex as a kingdom or spiritual weapon. The devil came in and corrupted its meaning and its use. Think about how the enemy uses sex in our marriages or how he uses us to use sex against our husbands. I know it must be extremely difficult to surrender your body and emotions to a man who has been insensitive, who refuses to take out the trash or help with the children, or who isn’t affectionate. But instead of rebelling; instead of withholding; and instead of withdrawing, you must learn how to engage in spiritual warfare. What are the confessions that you speak over him daily so that Jehovah can transform his life? How do you refuel and surrender to Jehovah so that He can fix what’s wrong in YOU? When do you go to the altar to pray for Jehovah to help you surrender to your husband sexually? When was the last time you fasted for your husband and marriage and sex life?
The devil will use us wives to withhold sex because he knows what a powerful tool it is in kingdom marriages. He will also use spirits of lust, adultery, masturbation, pornography and all other forms of sexual immorality to infiltrate our marriages with irreparable damage – if we let him. In kingdom, God ordained marriages and in God ordained sexual activities with your spouse, the sexual connection not only binds you to your husband and secures your oneness with him; not only does it feel amazing, but it is also a form of worship to Jehovah.
Think about all this power you have within you wives as you’ve been studying the Word of God with me; you’ve been praying; you’re about to do a 30-day fast. And do you think that when you connect with your husband sexually (which is also a connection spiritually) that your spirits aren’t impacting him? No. Sex won’t be the panacea for all your marital ills but the lack of sex is extremely frustrating to your husband and detrimental to your marriage. His sex drive has been tormenting you because other things aren’t going the way you want them to. Pray about this. Add this issue to your fasting prayer list. Your husband’s sex drive is a gift to you from Jehovah because in whole and healed marriages, sex can be the most powerful way to connect. When you have sex, use that as an opportunity to literally say aloud some of the confessions that Jehovah has given us. “Talking dirty” invites demons in your bedroom. And you wonder why you’re arguing or can’t communicate or can’t agree. What are you saying to each other and is it godly? Speaking powerful confessions over him while you are connected in the ultimate way invites the power of Holy Spirit to transform him and your marriage. His sex drive? Honey so many women are praying for what you have. You just have to pray and ask God how to manage the blessing with which you’ve been given.
As much as he hurts you, keeps embarrassing you, and puts you in compromising positions, nothing you can do or say can change him until he surrenders himself to God. Pray over him. Pray without ceasing. Tell Jehovah what you want and need from him. Cover him in the blood of Yeshua. Rebuke spirits that are coming for him – sabotage, python (to suffocate, wear down, make heavy, torment, irritate), marine (from the water, spirits that seduce sexually), women who don’t really want him but because you have him they allow themselves to be used by the devil to irritate and torture you (sometimes men can be or pretend to be blind to the motives of worldly women); lustful; lust of the eyes, pride of life; spirit of pride and arrogance; greed (more than one woman, befriending multiple women, exes, or children’s moms) and any other spirits he may be dealing with from childhood. Bind substance and drug abuse and addiction. Bind sexual addictions. Speak affirmations over his life. Submit to him. But only God can break him all the way down if he doesn’t straighten up (ask Paul). Seek God for guidance and for peace. He will tell you what to do. I decree and declare God’s blessings over you right now. Be encouraged. With Yeshua (Jesus) all things are possible.
God has to be first in your life for you to cover us.
The Word soothes us. It calms our fears. It covers and washes and purifies us. It transforms us. When Holy Spirit speaks to You, He gives you solutions to every situation in our lives. He gives you godly counsel. He instructs you on how to instruct us and receive help from us. He tells you how we need to be loved. He fills in the gaps where we fall short. He makes your pride subside. We just want to know that you’ve been in His presence.
Don’t let the enemy lie to you ever again about your spiritual discipline and outward expression of your relationship with Yeshua. It’s powerful and it draws us closer to you by the Spirit. It helps us to connect on another level and another dimension. It makes communicating in the natural that much more pleasant and effective. It opens you up to hear from Jehovah more clearly and it opens us up to hear your vision for us and the family and our ministry and business more clearly. It opens our hearts up more deeply because we trust you as you trust in Jehovah. The devil has lied to you to make you avoid worship and warfare long enough. Anything that draws you closer to God, draws us closer to you.
The enemy is the great deceiver and he leads the whole world astray. I don’t know about you but I have been deceived before – over and over. I have thought a situation or relationship was one way but it turned out to be something totally different. I thought that the person I was with loved me but I was deceived. I thought the relationship was headed somewhere, but it wasn’t. I thought a person was trustworthy but she wasn’t. Single and Married Wives, we have to be proactive and not reactive. Meaning? We can’t wait until the enemy creeps in and leads us or our husbands astray. We have to ward off those deceptive demons now. The enemy already has women, scam artists, car salesmen, or dirty supervisors pegged out who can be used to deceive our husbands. We have to cover ourselves and them now.
Genesis 38:9-10 9 “But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also.”
Confessions: Say these aloud daily until you feel the atmosphere shift.
1. I renounce the spirits of selfishness, greed, lust and duplicity in my husband. My husband will not tolerate spirits of duplicity and lying.
2. I renounce the spirits of irresponsibility in my husband which causes a man to abandon his seed, his own child, his own flesh and blood.
3. I renounce the spirit of manipulation in my husband which causes him to defile a woman’s body with no intentions of ever fulfilling his responsibility of marrying her. 4. I declare and decree that every dishonorable, deceptive, manipulative spirit be exposed in the name of Yeshua.
5. I cut off every misleading and undermining spirit working for Satanic intelligence in the name of Yeshua.
6. I declare and decree that my husband will fulfill all his responsibilities according to the kingdom of God and the principles in God’s Word.
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1 Peter 3:6 “…as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.”
This passage of scripture has always captured my spirit. What in the world could cause a wife to be afraid with “terror?” I have studied this word and can’t find any other references in the Bible of its use. Wow! We are considered Sarah’s daughters, with the capacity to call our husbands ‘lord’ if we do good and are not afraid with any terror. We look at “do good” quite often, especially since it’s referenced in Proverbs 31 also. But for this post, let’s explore terror. It’s such a strong word. Terror is extreme fear. What fears do we have that would prevent us from serving our husbands?
I bind the fear of him leaving.
I bind the fear of his death.
I bind the fear of him cheating.
I bind the fear of him not loving me.
I bind the fear of him not being a good steward.
I bind the fear of him not having wisdom.
I bind the fear of me not making him happy.
I bind the fear of other women taking him.
I bind the fear of not being able to fulfill my personal assignment.
Are there anything other things that cause you to fear? When you acknowledge it, bind it immediately.
The devil knows if he can cause us to fear that we won’t be willing to be good to or serve our husbands because something – sometimes subconsciously – will hold us back. I decree and declare that we are free today. We are free from terror in the name of Yeshua (Jesus). We are free to be good to and serve our husbands.
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Super Woman of God, which characteristics do you feel are most important for us to have as women of God this season? Abigail’s story just blows my mind every time I read it. To me, verses 25-31 represent two of the most powerful characteristics – discernment and spiritual wisdom?
1 Samuel 25:25-31 25 Please, let not my lord regard this scoundrel Nabal. For as his name is, so is he: Nabal is his name, and folly is with him! But I, your maidservant, did not see the young men of my lord whom you sent. 26 Now therefore, my lord, as the Lord lives and as your soul lives, since the Lord has held you back from coming to bloodshed and from avenging yourself with your own hand, now then, let your enemies and those who seek harm for my lord be as Nabal. 27 And now this present which your maidservant has brought to my lord, let it be given to the young men who follow my lord. 28 Please forgive the trespass of your maidservant. For the Lord will certainly make for my lord an enduring house, because my lord fights the battles of the Lord, and evil is not found in you throughout your days. 29 Yet a man has risen to pursue you and seek your life, but the life of my lord shall be bound in the bundle of the living with the Lord your God; and the lives of your enemies He shall sling out, as from the pocket of a sling. 30 And it shall come to pass, when the Lord has done for my lord according to all the good that He has spoken concerning you, and has appointed you ruler over Israel, 31 that this will be no grief to you, nor offense of heart to my lord, either that you have shed blood without cause, or that my lord has avenged himself. But when the Lord has dealt well with my lord, then remember your maidservant.”
Did you see evidence of those two characteristics in the text? The king had a small army heading to her home to kill every man in her household. The king had not prayed, consulted Jehovah, gone into the stronghold to hear from Jehovah, or fasted. The king was livid that Abigail’s husband refused to give food to him and his men. He was reacting to the situation in his flesh. When Abigail encounters him, every word has been anointed by Jehovah himself. Abigail is intelligent but when she speaks to David, the wisdom of Jehovah exudes from her. Look how wisely Abigail addresses the king. She tells this man (remember he is headed for a fight of which God didn’t approve):
1) Abigail prophesies to David. She tells him that the Lord will make David a sure house. She wisely says that David fights the battles of the Lord and evil hadn’t been found in David all his days. In other words, going to get vengeance on her husband was not a battle of the Lord’s. If David got involved in that, he could risk his covering.
2) Abigail reminds David of his covering and protection. King Saul was after David trying to kill him. So Abigail says that Jehovah continues to protect David because David does good. Jehovah will continue to allow David to win his battles if David continues to do well. In other words, headed to her home to kill her household may jeopardize his covering and protection from Saul.
3) Abigail emphasizes the importance of a good conscious. When Jehovah fulfills his promises in David’s life, making him ruler David won’t be vexed in his spirit because he avenged himself instead of allowing Jehovah to vindicate him.
4) Abigail establishes her position. She tells David that when God blesses him to remember her. When it is all said and done, Abigail says, remember me.
Do you see how her wisdom can be applied with your own husband? Do you sit at the feet of Jehovah long enough to hear what He says about your husband, his calling in the kingdom and his future? Can you gently warn your husband without it sounding like a warning at all? Can you gently remind him of his covering and protection as long as he does what is right in the sight of God? Can you explain to him about the peace of having a good conscious? Then, your position is established.
In all your getting single and married wives, get discernment to know when to say something and wisdom to know what and how to say it. When you get discernment and spiritual wisdom you can quietly and humbly run an entire kingdom with your husband being king. You, queen are the key to the kingdom. You are worth far more than rubies.
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