Women of God, I can’t stress it enough – We have to learn to keep our private lives private. Holy Spirit Himself should be the only One who can speak into us about our husbands. Blessed is the woman who walks NOT in the counsel of the ungodly…Her delight is in the law of the Word and she does meditate on it both day and night. Get your counsel from the Word of God. Family, friends, and even mentors don’t mean any harm, but sometimes their counsel is NOT godly. I’m speaking from experience. I have had people who are saved “pouring” into my spirit from their flesh. Because I didn’t guard my heart, I allowed my decisions to be influenced by their flesh. When our husbands mess up (because they will in some way), we will get over it in one hour but the people we confide in will harbor resentment and bitterness over time.
Holy Spirit will comfort us and guide us in what to do regarding our husbands. Even our most spiritual friends or mentors will still mentor us based on their schema and their paradigm. We can’t afford that. Learn now to hear from Holy Spirit for yourself. Learn now to depend on Holy Spirit for direction. Learn now to guard your hearts. Learn now to “eat the meat and leave the bones” – but be careful. Sometimes bones are embedded and hidden in the meat and we end up getting choked. Do not discuss your husband’s issues and your problems with any and everyone. Some people shouldn’t have access to your sacred covenant. Do not speak negatively over husband, describing what he did out loud in the atmosphere. Some of us can say some “damning” death confessions over our men and we put it in the atmosphere for demons to chew on and act on. Shhhhh. We have to learn now to be silent before HIM and him. Cherish the privacy of your marriage. Your husband is your best friend. When you can’t talk to him about himself, go to God about him in prayer and the heavenlies in warfare. Jené Elaine Walker