Ladies, if our passenger car seat is laid all the way back, it could be because we have been laid up. God wants us to get up out our bed (or his bed) of affliction. We have been afflicted with self-destruction, selfishness, and low self-worth. We have been afflicted with our past abuse and our current diseases. God says take up that affliction and walk. We are healed and delivered right now in Jesus’s name. And meanwhile, put your passenger seat back in the upright position permanently. If he can’t be seen rolling with you, he can’t roll at all.
That number 2 spot or 3 or even 4 is only cute for as long as we can pretend we are ok with it. Ladies, God didn’t even create us to be ok with sharing a man! Feelings are deceptive. So the empowerment we “think” we feel as a result of being involved with someone who belongs to someone else is really pride and selfishness. That statement we make, “I can’t help if she doesn’t satisfy him and he has to come to me” is only cute in the flesh and for a moment. After about a year or less of being number 2, 3, or 4…it isn’t cute any more. It really hurts when we’re all alone and our bodies aren’t enough to keep him there with us. It isn’t cute when we’re reaping all the pain we’ve sown.
God has a number 1 spot reserved just for me and you. Number 2 just won’t do. He wants us to start bearing fruits of the Spirit (i.e., self-control) and stop producing flesh fruits of discord, dissension, and sexual immorality. Let’s stop pretending we’re cool with being less than his only one.
We have had our share of creeping and sneaking. We have had our flings and short and long term affairs. We have been entangled in love triangles, circles and even squares. God wants us to believe Him for His best. He wants us to wake up from this nightmare that we have prolonged and know our worth in Him. God loves us. He wants to give us our own man. If we would only trust God…
Ladies, continue to renounce the spirit of “two” or “second.” God created you as a wife. You do not serve in a 2nd place capacity. You are a queen and you wear the crown. If he belongs to someone else, you don’t want anything to do with him.
Renounce that heavy oppressive spirit that makes us settle for second place; that makes us wait by the phone for the moment he can get away; that makes us feel empowered because someone who belongs to someone else is using us for sexual and other gratification; that makes us chase after and pine for that which is not ours; that makes us content with not being able to call him “our own” according to God’s law; that makes us justify being a “beckon call girl” for a man who isn’t ours; that makes us allow our bodies to be sexual punching bags; that makes us believe that he is only intimate with us and not his wife because he doesn’t love her; that makes us dream of and covet her permanent place when we are in actuality stuck in a temporary spot; that makes us use our bodies, wiles, and seductive powers to lure him to us.
We are no longer deceived by Satan. He has been exposed. We know what it is. We know it is a demonic spirit of oppression. It can weigh you down so heavily that you can’t move forward. We renounce the spirit of 2nd right now in the name of Jesus.
Satan, you can no longer deceive us to stay in this dead relationship. We are no longer thieves in the night trying to steal someone and something that God doesn’t want us to have. We are no longer lawless and rebellious. We are obedient. We are free. We can wait on God until we can operate as the number one woman of God He created us to be. We wear the crown. Jené Elaine Walker