Someone’s heart has been broken into thousands of tiny chunks. The hurt caused by a broken heart seems unbearable. The brokenhearted feel all alone even with people all around. Guess what—we have a God who specializes in mending broken hearts. I know that the empty butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach and the ache in your heart seem impossible to heal. But God will heal you. He will take you and wrap you in His loving arms and show you what it’s like to really be loved.
Are you brokenhearted? How can we separate our hurt from our Healer? Are we delaying our own healing process? God doesn’t allow us to go through hurt without purpose. Yes—even our hurt has purpose. We delay our own healing process and purpose when we try to avenge ourselves, wreaking havoc on those who have hurt us and anyone else in our paths. God says to stop perpetuating our own hurt. He says to let Him be God in the hurtful situations of our lives. He is our Vindicator. He is our Healer. Won’t we take our broken hearts to Him? Hurting people go to God for healing. We don’t hurt other people.
I am a wife, and I submit my husband to You, Lord. He has been unfaithful to me in some way, whether it was adultery, or focusing more on the job than on me and the kids, or not helping me with the kids, or pornography, or flirting, or an emotional affair, or verbal and emotional abuse, or in our finances. God, You haven’t released me, so I’m being obedient, and I’m staying.
But God, while I’m here, I know You will still hold me accountable for my unforgiveness, and You won’t even move on my behalf with all this unforgiveness in my heart. I’m tired of withholding my nurturing, my lovemaking, my praise, and my support. I’m tired of hurting, but I’m also tired of operating in the flesh in my marriage.
Create a right spirit in me. If I really listen to my spirit, I will know that I’m not right myself. I need to submit. I need to be quiet. I need spiritual wisdom. I need to be a better steward of our money. I need to care for him first and my children and family and friends after that. Help me focus on You and stop criticizing him. I can’t transform him. Only You can, but I can be obedient to You, Lord, and then You will honor my marriage. My husband and my marriage belong to You, Lord. Jené Elaine Walker